Wednesday, October 15, 2008

October 15th

Is National Day of Remembrance for Pregnancy and Infant loss. I just recently found out about this and I guess for us it brings even more special meaning since we lost Jonathan just days before.

My friend Geneva sent me the link to this blog and she had a lovely idea to use her blog for others to post comments about the loss that they have experienced. So while it is not my idea, I love it so much that I am going to borrow it.

"If you have lost a baby (and yes, I consider a miscarriage in ANY week to be the loss of a life) to infant death or miscarriage, I want the honor of praying for you. But I want others to be able to pray for you as well, the way they have for me. So, if you are one of those women, will you please leave a comment on this post and tell us your name, the nature of your loss (date, what happened etc), and the child/children's names so that we can pray for you.

You may post as "anonymous" for this post (I have altered settings to allow this), and you are welcome to leave as much info as you feel comfortable. If you don't want to share private information, you are welcome to just say, "I lost a baby" and we will pray for you. "

What a beautiful thing to do.

Today when I was shopping I ran across a lovely little poem:

A wee
bit of heaven drifted down from above
A handful of happiness
A heart full of love.

Just like Angie from Bring the Rain I will start.

My name is Jaimey Buquet. I lost my second child Jonathan Mitchell October 9, 2008 just 3 short hours after his birth to Anencephaly.

I hope that the people who have uplifted me so much can help others as well. My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a child in any capacity.


Cindy said...

I just found your blog tonight. I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby Jonathan.
I to have lost a baby boy at birth, his name is Jonathan David he truely is my beloved gift of God. We found out in August of 1995 that our precious baby's kidneys had stoped developing, he also had spinal and heart defects, he was given a 1% chance of survival, he was born on November 11, 1995 at 1:40 pm and went to Heaven at 2:25 pm. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him and wish I could just hold him one more time.
We have since been blessed with a daughter, Megan on July 27th 2001 she is our little maricle, in December 2000 I had a miscarriage after trying to get pregnant for 5 years we were devistated then at my doctors appointment a week later we found out that I had lost her twin, it was a long scary road to delivery but so wonderful to finally bring home my healthy premmie home 9 days after her birth.
God has been so good to us not a day goes by that I don't hank him for my babies, I don't know why he chose to take two of them home to be with him but someday I will see them and hold them.
I pray that you feel God's love around you in the difficult days ahead.
Love & Prayers,

Kathy said...

I just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for your during this time! I have lost 10 babies to misscarriages- and still have empty arms!
You are in my thoughts and prayers!

Geneva said...

I haven't lost a child of my own, but I have lost two adopted brothers, one at age 4 and one at age 2. Both came to my family terminally ill, both due to severe abuse. I watched helplessly as my parents went through the agonizing grief, and I went through it myself, though as a sister, not as a parent. The loss of a child seems so inexplicable, and the sorrow is so deep that it seems bottomless. We knew that they'd gone on to a place where they could be whole again, with no more pain or fear or suffering, and we were so thankful for that, but it didn't take anything at all away from the awful loss we felt and the gaping hole that their absence left in our hearts. I don't think that that void ever goes away, but after several years, we're able to think about the happy moments without them being tainted so much with sadness. I pray every single day that God will hold you in His hands and let you feel His peace, but I know it takes time, my sweet friend.

Hollie said...

Jaimey - I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you and your family.

Jessica said...

My name is Jessica Carlin. I lost my third child, Treyson Kemp Carlin. The cause of death was underdeveloped lungs due to bilateral renal agenesis. He was born June 6, 2008 and live for one beautiful hour.

I am so very very sorry for your loss. you will be in my prayers. as you walk through this maze of grief don't try to carry the burden alone. Turn it over to the Father and rest in His unexplainable peace. the pain never goes away, but He will comfort you if you let Him.

Phil said...

From Phil & Leslie Petty: Our second child, Mark, died as he was being born (full term). We're not sure of the medical diagnosis. The doctor said there was an abundance of fluid in/on his brain.

Our fourth child, Christiana, died at the age of 3 years and a few days. She had endocardiofibroelastosis, a congenital heart disorder.

So we have six children. Two have preceded us and we are looking forward, some day, to our reunion.

Thank you, Jaimey and Zack, for this opportunity to share with you.


Amy H said...

Hi Jaimey,
I haven't checked your blog for several days and didn't know that Oct. 15th was that day (too long to write!). Dan and I lost a baby this past January, 3 days after finding out we were pregnant. It turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy. I had no idea that miscarriages were so hard...I always thought moms shouldn't be so sad about something like that. But it happened to us, and now I feel like I can totally relate to people who have gone thru that...we had to make the dreadful decision to give me a shot that would dissolve the egg since it was stuck in the tube and would most likely end up bursting. That was very hard to do, but it definitely made us rely more on my faithful and gracious Lord, so I am very thankful for that privilege. I feel like my relationship with Him has become so much more precious. My immediate thoughts after finding out that it was a tubal pregnancy were that God is sovereign and that He is good. He has continued to show his goodness and mercy to our family during that time and since. We would still love to conceive another child, but so far, God's timing isn't exactly ours and we rest in that. Actually, you can read more about it on our family blogspot on the entry on the 16th of September. I will give you the link over on your Facebook page.

Anonymous said...

Hi Jaimey,
I met you on the nilmdts forum... Owen Thomas was diagnosed as full trisomy 18 on June 18, 2008. He arrived on Monday, Oct. 13, 2008 at 5:19pm. He lived 5 wonderful minutes. Thank goodness I have a 3-1/2 yr old boy to fill my arms!

Hope you're doing well.

Jaimey said...

Shannon, I am sorry for your loss. I am sure the time you had with your sweet special little boy was amazing. Know that I think about you often and send hugs. Take care, Jaimey